The F it Stage in Life

A few months ago, I was invited to a friend’s brother’s 21st birthday celebration.

Initially when I got the invite I was excited because this is a milestone birthday for most people. I would be able to have a glimpse of my early 20s.

But that journey down memory lane made my excitement quickly disappear. I started to get flashbacks of my own 21st birthday. It felt like the ghost of 21st birthdays past. The one lesson I learned from that night is that 21st birthdays are unpredictable– and I do not think my knee can hold

up.

Let’s have a moment of realness. I am in my late 20s and I can only keep up until the clock strikes midnight.

I am like the carriage in Cinderella. I turn back into a pumpkin as the clock strikes 12. The only difference is that I start craving my pajamas and my bed instead of a glass slipper.

Not to mention, I am engaged now, so when I go out, it might sound cliché, but I just want to dance.

I will admit that well before I hit my late 20s, I had given up on keeping up with the club scene. When I turned 24, I hit the F-it stage in my life.

The F-it stage is when you completely lose the fear of missing out. I stopped pretending like I wanted to go to packed bars just because it was Friday night.

My close friends will tell you that I am known to take naps before going out, many times I have woken up as the club is closing. My eyes still get wide when someone mentions that the next meetup time is scheduled for 11 pm. I secretly am excited that most bars in Chicago close at 2 am on Fridays.

For someone that is deep into the F-it stage in their life, I struggle with being social on the weekends after a certain time. I have a friend whose a phenomenal performer but I need at least a two week heads up when he performs so I can mentality prepare to stay up past midnight.

Even though the F-it stage in life has its struggles, it has helped me better prioritize my responsibilities and be a better friend.

I do love to dance and enjoy a few adult beverages, but it is nice to wake up the next day and be productive (as opposed to waking up with a heavy hangover). I am also that friend that is down to brunch, attend a daytime festival, or chill on a rooftop.

Comment down below and let me know when you reached the F-it Stage in life. Share your tips to deal with the struggles of the F-it Stage.

I am sure we can all learn good insight from each other, or, then again, F-it.

xoxo

– Shay